Darren Clark Music
  • Home
  • About
    • Biography
    • Awards
    • Credits
  • SHOWS
    • MUSICALS >
      • The Curious Case of Benjamin Button
      • The Wicker Husband
      • Turing
      • The Boy and the Mermaid
      • The Coup Coup Club
      • Day of the Living
      • The Scarecrows Wedding
      • The Grumpiest Boy in the World
      • Once Upon a Snowflake
  • Video
  • Sheet Music
  • For Young/New Composers
    • How I Began My Career
    • The Invoice
    • The Commissioning Contract
    • The Option Agreement
    • The Collaboration Agreement
    • Fees & Royalties
    • Links
  • Services
    • PITCH DECKs
    • ACTOR MUSICIANS
  • Blog
  • Contact

What is True Altruism? - An Early Morning Preponderance 

10/28/2012

1 Comment

 
I stood up for an old lady on the tube the other day (I do this if I have the option), when I say "I stood up" for her, I don't mean that I advocated her rights in a dramatic speech that was described in the Independent as a 'Tour de Force... a brutal indictment of the government's neglect of its ageing population...' and I also don't mean that she was attacked by a mob with knives and pea shooters and that I stood in the way and bravely took the bruises and cuts whilst she and her husband made a dramatic escape to the jubilee line. 

Of course I mean that I literally "Stood up" and gave her my seat. And yet this was enough to put a smile on her face for the few minutes afterwards. How nice of me.

Yes. She was smiling for a few minutes, happy in the knowledge that young people (I use the term loosely since I almost had more hair than she did) have not completely lost that sense of good will towards their elders...

Little did she know that behind the pages of my book that I was reading, and stuffed into the armpit of a large man in an Emirates T Shirt, a smug happiness had begun in my head that would last not just a tube ride, but the WHOLE DAY!

I felt BRILLIANT. It was great to do something nice for someone else and it made my whole day better. I suspect I got far more out of standing up for that lady than she would have had from the pleasure of sitting down.

But this begs the somewhat cynical question (it's one that I grapple with constantly)...

Have I just done something nice because I wanted another person to be happy? OR have I done something nice in order to make myself feel better?

The problem with this question is that I have not been able to find an answer. I do want other people to be happy and I do want to feel happy myself. So is the good deed doer motivated by a desire to help others or themselves? 

Does true Altruism ever exist? I can convince myself that I am doing this for the right reasons but if it didn't feel good for me, I probably wouldn't do it again... or would I?
1 Comment
Bob Sloth
10/28/2012 01:03:31 am

Occams Razor suggests "The simplest answer is probably the right one." Therefore if the consequence of you acting morally, whether for your own happiness or others is good then there is not much else to worry about. Love you bear face x

Reply



Leave a Reply.

    Picture

    Categories

    All
    Building New Musicals
    Children's Theatre
    Composer Psychology
    How To Make A Living
    My Personal Life
    On Critique & Reviews
    On Songwriting
    Politics
    Stiles & Drewe Writing Retreat

    Categories

    All
    Building New Musicals
    Children's Theatre
    Composer Psychology
    How To Make A Living
    My Personal Life
    On Critique & Reviews
    On Songwriting
    Politics
    Stiles & Drewe Writing Retreat

    Archives

    November 2024
    October 2024
    July 2024
    March 2024
    September 2021
    April 2021
    November 2020
    February 2020
    November 2019
    August 2019
    July 2019
    June 2019
    May 2019
    March 2019
    January 2019
    December 2018
    November 2018
    October 2018
    September 2018
    August 2018
    July 2018
    June 2018
    March 2018
    February 2018
    October 2017
    July 2017
    June 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    January 2017
    December 2016
    November 2016
    October 2016
    September 2016
    August 2016
    July 2016
    June 2016
    May 2016
    April 2016
    February 2016
    March 2015
    December 2014
    August 2014
    March 2014
    May 2013
    March 2013
    January 2013
    December 2012
    November 2012
    October 2012
    September 2012
    August 2012
    July 2012
    May 2012
    October 2011

    Categories

    All
    Building New Musicals
    Children's Theatre
    Composer Psychology
    How To Make A Living
    My Personal Life
    On Critique & Reviews
    On Songwriting
    Politics
    Stiles & Drewe Writing Retreat

Picture
  • Home
  • About
    • Biography
    • Awards
    • Credits
  • SHOWS
    • MUSICALS >
      • The Curious Case of Benjamin Button
      • The Wicker Husband
      • Turing
      • The Boy and the Mermaid
      • The Coup Coup Club
      • Day of the Living
      • The Scarecrows Wedding
      • The Grumpiest Boy in the World
      • Once Upon a Snowflake
  • Video
  • Sheet Music
  • For Young/New Composers
    • How I Began My Career
    • The Invoice
    • The Commissioning Contract
    • The Option Agreement
    • The Collaboration Agreement
    • Fees & Royalties
    • Links
  • Services
    • PITCH DECKs
    • ACTOR MUSICIANS
  • Blog
  • Contact